Dezlegare la dulciuri
Nu stiu care sunt regulile la voi acasa, dar la noi s-a dat dezlegare la dulciuri. Daca eu nu ma pot abtine, atunci cum sa pretind asta de la copil? Asadar, ca sa fie “sarbatori linistite” regula de “un dulce pe zi” se amana pentru 2019.
EN: I don’t know what the rules are at your house when it comes to treats, but back at our place we are officially allowed to have as many as we want. If can’t help myself, then how can I ask the child not to do the same? So, in order to have “peaceful holidays”, the “one treat a day” rule is postponed until 2019.
Copilul meu a descoperit accidental ciocolata la 1 an si 10 luni. A facut niste ochi mari si un “Mmmmmmm…” atat de puternic, incat parca ar fi vrut sa imi spuna, dar nu avea vocabularul la varsta respectiva: “Ce e asta si de ce mi-ati ascuns-o pana acum?????!?!?!?”
Apoi abia pe la 3 ani am inceput sa il las sa manance si dulciuri din comert. Oricum, mama i le dadea deja, spunandu-mi relaxata ca “sunt pentru copii, nu ai vazut ca au copii pe ele?”. Mama, cerealele au ursi pe ele, ce sa inteleg?!
O lunga perioada am tinut regula un dulce pe zi. Dar atat noua, adultilor, cat si lui ne este foarte greu sa ne tinem de aceste reguli (si de limite in general). Iar in perioada sarbatorilor parca traim cu totii intr-o lume a dulciurilor. Si uitati-va in pozele de mai sus cat de frumoasa e lumea asta si cat de mult imi(ne) place!
Asadar, ca sa nu fie un scandal si un razboi continuu in casa pana la finalul anului, am sa dau dezlegare la dulciuri. Deja are cantitati mari de la Mos Nicolae (care a adus si acasa si la gradi si la aba si la unchiu’ Dodo), ba chiar si cateva provizii de la Halloween. Plus toate dulciurile care continua sa intre in casa, cumparate sau primite cadou, de prin cofetarii, supermarketuri sau brazi adunate.
Si ce am constatat de anul trecut a fost ca in seara de 24 dec, cand efectiv am pus toate dulciurile, prajiturile, ciocolatele, fursecurile etc pe masa, ca Vlad s-a bucurat sa le vada, dar abia s-a atins de ele. Tocmai pentru ca erau la discretie! Cand e “fructul interzis” e jale, nu stii ce scheme sa mai aplici, ca sa mentii cat de cat controlul.
Deci, cum zicea o prietena, pentru ca nu mai e cale de intors de sarbatori, nu ne mai ramane decat sa ii programam la dentist la anu’.
Voi cum faceti? Ii lasati sa manance dulciuri sau nu? Cum negociati? Si as vrea sa stiu daca bunicii sau alte rude respecta aceleasi reguli 🙂
In poze port: top COS, haina blana artificiala American Retro, blugi mango, incaltaminte Uterque, cercei H&M. Pozele au fost realizate in magazinul Grace Couture Cakes din Calea Dorobantilor.
EN: My child discovered chocolate by accident when he was 1 year and 10 months old. His eyes suddenly got bigger and a “Mmmmmmmhhhhh” came out of his mouth, almost like he wanted to tell me, but he didn’t have the necessary vocabulary at that age: “What is this and why did you keep this from me until now?????!?!?!?”
But it was only after he turned 3 that I started to allow him to have sweets from the supermarket. Anyway, my mother was already giving them to him, while casually saying that “they’re for kids, have you not seen that they have kids on them?”. Mom, cereal have bears on them, what should I make of that?!
We have kept our one treat a day rule for quite some time now. But it’s just as hard for us adults as it is for him to keep these rules (or boundaries in general). And during the holiday season, we seem to be living in a world that’s made of sweets. Just look at the pictures above how beautiful this world is and how much I (we) like it!
So, in order to keep away from scandals and constant war at our house until the end of the year, I will allow everyone to have as many sweets as they want. He already has lots of it from St Nicholas (who brought some both at home and at kindergarten and at Aba’s and at uncle Dodo’s), he even has some supplies left over from Halloween. Plus all the sweets which coming into the house, whether they’re bought or received as gifts, from cake shops, supermarkets or Christmas trees.
And what I have come to notice last year is that on the evening of the 24th of December, when we literally put all the sweets, cakes, cookies, chocolates on the table, Vlad was very happy to see them, but he barely touched them. Precisely because they were at his own discretion! When they’re “the forbidden fruit”, you don’t know what tactics to use, so you can somehow be in control of the situation.
So, like a friend of mine said, since there’s no way back during the holidays, all we have left to do is make a dentist appointment for them for next year.
How do you manage the situation? Do you allow treats or not? How do you negotiate? And I would like to know if grandparents or other relatives also keep these rules 🙂
In the pictures I am wearing: top by COS, faux fur American Retro coat, Mango jeans, Uterque shoes, H&M earrings. The pictures were taken in the Grace Couture Cakes shop on Calea Dorobantilor.